interesting

i am by no means unhappy (like at all actually), but at times have wondered what moves men my age to make the decisions they do about relationships. my friend alex and i came to the conclusion this summer (through endless gChat conversations dissecting the men in our lives) that it was in fact the feminist movement that destroyed the guys. sorry if you are a man my age reading this, but you are most likely a destroyed man, and hopefully this post enlightens you, as i have decided it is my mission in life to enlighten men.

here are the facts (according to yours truly):

1. men use to be chivalrous, brave, determined, and non-commitment-phobs (back in like the old western days, and even down to my very own grandpa's days). they would choose a woman, and go after her like he should. they used to open doors (which some men these days still do), go on dates instead of hang out, and when they started talking about marriage, they weren't scared silly. in fact, i'll bet they wouldn't break up with their "sweetheart" right after discussing the topic. they would get married no matter how much money they had, and they would get married no matter how young they were.

2. then there was rosie the riveter. she wanted her rights, she wanted to be independent, and she wanted to go out there to help her family financially and emotionally while the men were gone at war. the men came back to extremely powerful and independent women who still needed men (as we learn in the proclamation to the family) but had taken on some of the roles of providing.

3. this changed the course of history to move into a phase of strong women who were able to have the same rights as men, and even hold higher positions in the business place, etc. Women decided they could actually achieve their dreams, make a goal, go for what they wanted, and fulfill more than they ever were able to in the past. this also moved from the scope of business to being strong women in intimate relationships. women started choosing the men they wanted to go for, etc. so the men did not have to work as hard for what they wanted. they went with their options as they came up and the women did the battling over the men they wanted to date and eventually marry.

4. currently, we are in a state where men are lazier when it comes to relationships and are fine with women asking them out, and sometimes even proposing. the women have made it too easy for guys, and people can live together for years without ever having to commit. men can date hundreds of women without ever having to commit (because they're for some reason terrified of that word) and women put up with it. because of this horrible lazy tendency, men wait around for those aggressive girls with no heed to old-fashioned chivalry. don't get me wrong, i have been on dates/dated men who are gentlemen (meaning they open doors and pay for things...sometimes) but they still have more modern expectations when it comes right down to it. they expect women to ask them out if they don't ever get the guts to do so. all this has led to less self-confidence, shyness, and commitment issues because they have never had to choose a girl, go for her, and just marry her whether they were scared or not.

now, i do realize this is an over-generalization and there are several exceptions to my comments, but for the most part there are old-fashioned girls like myself who agree with me. girls even become so desperate that they think they need to change themselves or their personalities to woo men, when in reality there is nothing wrong with them except for the fact that the boy they are interested in lacks confidence (or he is straight-up just not into her).

well anyways, after figuring out this progression of history, and coming to the same conclusion with MANY of my girl friends and even guy friends (the list extends beyond the realm of fingers and toes, which means that my data could potentially be analyzed in statistical data, and the outcome of my hypothesis could come to a p-value of less than .001--i promise) i saw the post card above on a website of secrets (use discretion as some images are disturbing or inappropriate).

I couldn't help but chuckle that someone else had come to the same conclusion, and that it is in fact true. well, i guess there is not much to do about it. any thoughts?